What is Compassionate Self-Care?

And WHY is it so important NOW!

Is your self-care lost amid clamoring, hungry kids, deadlines and the current 24/7 news cycle that’s continuously bombarding you with news about the virus?

With our schedules busier than ever more, women are feeling overwhelmed and are turning to food for comfort.

 Overcoming barriers to self-care can be difficult, especially for women.

 Women are especially accustomed to pushing our self-care further and further down the to-do list.

Something always seems more important. 

But making time and space for ourselves — and getting over the emotional guilt — is critical to our well-being and happiness, especially NOW!

Emotional guilt often leads to Self-criticism.

The way you talk to yourself plays a vital role in your well-being. Luckily, the problem of the harsh self-critic is fixable.

I believe that Self-Compassion is the Foundation of Self-Care.

They go hand in hand, its being kind and empathetic enough to yourself to make time for self-care.

 The two terms sound interchangeable, but they contain a thinking versus doing distinction. 


  • Self-compassion is regarding yourself compassionately.
  • Self-care, by contrast, is treating yourself compassionately.


Self-care with self-compassion is a gift you deserve and it doesn’t have to be earned.


Selfcompassion is being gentle, kind and understanding with yourself; accepting that you are not perfect; and understanding that there is potential for learning and growth in every mistake you make  (Neff, 2003).

Dr. Kristin Neff, one of the most prominent researchers and authors in this field, said that “unlike self-criticism which asks if you’re good enough, self-compassion asks what’s good for you?

 If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others.

 Real selfcare is not all bubble baths and chocolate, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from. And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do. It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing.

Why Do We Need Self-Compassion?

It allows us to let go of the expectation that we are super human who can do far more than we’d expect anyone else to.

Even when we can’t soldier on, we expect we should be able to.

I learned it the hard way that led to adrenal fatigue that claimed 6 months of my previous life. And requites a daily practise to stay focused

What is Compassionate Self-Care.

Compassionate Self-Care allows us to take the pressure off and have the capacity to reflect positivity ‘inward.’

I find It accepts my frustration and helps me practice real self-care, getting out of or renegotiating commitments I can’t possibly finish right now.

I am then able to accept being where I am and needing what I need as being ok.

It’ll take practice; new difficulties, as my above situation illustrates, always do.

And lastly you can’t change your circumstance, but you can change how you’re going through it.

Practicing Compassionate Self-Care keeps you from making a hard situation even harder.

It lets you rest and fulfil your emotional and physical needs and be OK with doing it.

And that’s what you need right now, so that you can feel calm , show up more vibrant, energized, and productive.

Now it’s over to you…

  • What are your self -care struggles?

Please share and comment below.

Irena Geller

Emotional Eating Coach

BSc (Biomed), Cert IV (PT), Wellness Coach (Level 3))

I coach 35+ women to put down their fork and pick up their life.  If you want to end your struggles with excess weight, stress and self-belief, using your strengths and capabilities, book a free 15-minute mini-coaching session with me and I’ll show you how to transform your life.






about irena

Irena Geller

Irena Geller is a Sydney-based health & wellness coach specialising in the 🍓food and 😃 mood connection. She loves helping professional women to find the motivation and energy to eat healthily and exercise regularly and be consistent with these habits.

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